I think this is partly addressed at me? (And sorry for the slow response: it's never a good day when there's an ambulance involved.)
I don't think you're deluded. I don't know exactly what your thought processes are other than a passing mention here of questioning your gender earlier this year; I'd intended to grab half an hour with you at Easter, in fact, but there we go (I chickened out at Dublin, which I regret). If you asked me to guess, I'd say that you don't feel any resonance with modern stereotypes of womanhood (and possibly motherhood), so you've made the logical choice to disassociate yourself from them. I do get the logic, but I think a better choice (especially, given your position of relative privilege) would have been to stand up to those stereotypes and be a good counterexample. IDK, I may be totally off base there: if things ever get back to normal, maybe we could still grab that half hour?
FWIW, I'm personally relatively unconcerned about women's toilets, because I personally am also in a position of relative privilege. I worry more about places such as prisons, and school changing rooms, where that privilege is largely absent.
If you're interested in another long article, please do read the one I linked to. I'm sure you'll disagree with a lot of it, but it might help you to understand where people are coming from.
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I don't think you're deluded. I don't know exactly what your thought processes are other than a passing mention here of questioning your gender earlier this year; I'd intended to grab half an hour with you at Easter, in fact, but there we go (I chickened out at Dublin, which I regret). If you asked me to guess, I'd say that you don't feel any resonance with modern stereotypes of womanhood (and possibly motherhood), so you've made the logical choice to disassociate yourself from them. I do get the logic, but I think a better choice (especially, given your position of relative privilege) would have been to stand up to those stereotypes and be a good counterexample. IDK, I may be totally off base there: if things ever get back to normal, maybe we could still grab that half hour?
FWIW, I'm personally relatively unconcerned about women's toilets, because I personally am also in a position of relative privilege. I worry more about places such as prisons, and school changing rooms, where that privilege is largely absent.
If you're interested in another long article, please do read the one I linked to. I'm sure you'll disagree with a lot of it, but it might help you to understand where people are coming from.